Why aren't you following through on the things that you say that you should do right?It's a huge challenge that I think a lot of people face.Yeah, I've plans come to me, and they say, Ben, I've just been trying years. I wish I could lose weight, right? This is a great example.People in order to lose weight,.they need to eat less, exercise more. It's so simple. They don't do it. I'm another client who came to me, and she had been struggling with perfectionism for a very very long time. She knows what to do. She realizes that she needs to allow things to be imperfect. That's okay.Focus on the 80%, get it done, and move on. Don't stress about the little details. She still does.
Why is that?One of the fundamental things that we need to understand about humans is that our behavior is driven by pain and pleasure. This is such a simple concept. Yet applying. It can be so challenging, which is why there are so many people that struggle to implement the things that they say they want to do.They don't follow through with an example here using perfectionism. We'll call this client, Stephanie. Just as an example. So for her, Stephanie, right, was struggling with perfectionism, with fashion right.So she would create everything. She would do it all, but she was still just overwhelmed with attempting to kind of do it in a way that she could also relax in the process, tweaking it, changing it. And what she'd found is she was trying to avoid the pain of getting anything wrong.I didn't want to get anything wrong that be awful. So what she did, she just stays, but she was now the pleasure that she kind of wanted to be able to be different, but she was also kind of happy being where she is, right?So there's kind of the pain that she kind of wants to do something. But then the pleasure is like, I think it's okay. So what tends to happen is people stand in that comfort zone. Right? So what happens? And this is a great example is a rubber band. So it stretches. You say I'm going to do something different.I'm going to do something different. You do something different. You pop back. This is such a key thing to understand is that unlessyou can have someone else, and this is why I'm such a big fan of getting a mentor and coaching, having someone outside of yourself to look at your blind spots.
So you can see where you have something unresolved where. There is no alignment to what you're doing, where you're taking two steps forward and like five steps back, right? You've got to be able to focus on where you're going, move things forward, and make it happen in a way that works.So I strongly recommend if you're struggling with following through nothing. I'm not sure what to do and make sure that you get someone who knows what they're doing, who can figure out what is it that's gonna help you make that shift.You can make the change and start doing things that you say that you want to do.

About Ben Ivey

Ben Ivey is an entrepreneur lifestyle expert, international speaker, Tony Robbins Strategic Intervention Coach, and the Lead Facilitator for Zero Suicide Systems Nu-Rekall. After overcoming his own self-sabotage in business, he now helps other entrepreneurs create business success whilst living an extraordinary lifestyle.Ben is the founder of the Entrepreneur Lifestyle Accelerator, supporting overwhelmed entrepreneurs around the globe that are struggling to create the success they desire. His events led by his trainers are now regularly held internationally, working with senior leadership teams of large companies such as Maersk, HSBC, and Coca Cola. Ben is also the founder of the Lifestyle Coach Academy, training lifestyle coaches with the coaching skills, knowledge and business strategies to build a coaching practice online.


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Why don't I follow through?



Why aren't you following through on the things that you say that you should do right?It's a huge challenge that I think a lot of people face.Yeah, I've plans come to me, and they say, Ben, I've just been trying years. I wish I could lose weight, right? This is a great example.People in order to lose weight,.they need to eat less, exercise more. It's so simple. They don't do it. I'm another client who came to me, and she had been struggling with perfectionism for a very very long time. She knows what to do. She realizes that she needs to allow things to be imperfect. That's okay.Focus on the 80%, get it done, and move on. Don't stress about the little details. She still does.
Why is that?One of the fundamental things that we need to understand about humans is that our behavior is driven by pain and pleasure. This is such a simple concept. Yet applying. It can be so challenging, which is why there are so many people that struggle to implement the things that they say they want to do.They don't follow through with an example here using perfectionism. We'll call this client, Stephanie. Just as an example. So for her, Stephanie, right, was struggling with perfectionism, with fashion right.So she would create everything. She would do it all, but she was still just overwhelmed with attempting to kind of do it in a way that she could also relax in the process, tweaking it, changing it. And what she'd found is she was trying to avoid the pain of getting anything wrong.I didn't want to get anything wrong that be awful. So what she did, she just stays, but she was now the pleasure that she kind of wanted to be able to be different, but she was also kind of happy being where she is, right?So there's kind of the pain that she kind of wants to do something. But then the pleasure is like, I think it's okay. So what tends to happen is people stand in that comfort zone. Right? So what happens? And this is a great example is a rubber band. So it stretches. You say I'm going to do something different.I'm going to do something different. You do something different. You pop back. This is such a key thing to understand is that unlessyou can have someone else, and this is why I'm such a big fan of getting a mentor and coaching, having someone outside of yourself to look at your blind spots.
So you can see where you have something unresolved where. There is no alignment to what you're doing, where you're taking two steps forward and like five steps back, right? You've got to be able to focus on where you're going, move things forward, and make it happen in a way that works.So I strongly recommend if you're struggling with following through nothing. I'm not sure what to do and make sure that you get someone who knows what they're doing, who can figure out what is it that's gonna help you make that shift.You can make the change and start doing things that you say that you want to do.

About Ben Ivey

Ben Ivey is an entrepreneur lifestyle expert, international speaker, Tony Robbins Strategic Intervention Coach, and the Lead Facilitator for Zero Suicide Systems Nu-Rekall. After overcoming his own self-sabotage in business, he now helps other entrepreneurs create business success whilst living an extraordinary lifestyle.Ben is the founder of the Entrepreneur Lifestyle Accelerator, supporting overwhelmed entrepreneurs around the globe that are struggling to create the success they desire. His events led by his trainers are now regularly held internationally, working with senior leadership teams of large companies such as Maersk, HSBC, and Coca Cola. Ben is also the founder of the Lifestyle Coach Academy, training lifestyle coaches with the coaching skills, knowledge and business strategies to build a coaching practice online.


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